Suicide…..

In 2022, men were 3.85 times more likely than commit suicide than women.

Let that sink in.

A man, in 2022, was 3.85 times more than likely to feel as if no one wanted than here than a women. Why is that? While, we may never truly know, I have some thoughts about it, and I’m nearly certain what. am about to say next will have half of you saying “Fuck you” before you even read another sentence.

So why do I think men are more likely to “delete” themselves off the face of the planet? Simple, society tells men they have to be tough and showing emotion is a direct conflict of being tough. As if you were tough, you are not weak and being weak is showing emotion. Now on the flip side of that, women are looked at as “too” emotional, and depending on your skin color, you may even get the label of being angry all the time.

We are in 2025, and yet society, even in the year in which these statistics come from, still stereotypes what makes you man enough. Tough enough. What allows you to have a “man card”. So for the naysayers who tell me that mental health is not at the very minimum an epidemic, I call utter bullshit.

We have a PROBLEM, and we are doing the absolute bare minimum to correct it, if that.

We are all here how destructive the aftermath suicide is, but do you really get the absolute devastation and destruction it leaves behind? The unanswered why’s. The wondering if you were too stuck in your own world, that you couldn’t get yourself out of your own way to notice their pain before they decided dying was better than living another day.

Wondering what more could be done? What more can be done to prevent this from happening to someone else?

And yet we have people like Mel Robbins, telling her listeners/viewers, on a podcast, to not speak about their anxiety. To not say they have something that they do have because if they do, it’ll become apart of who they are. Pardon me, but what the actual fuck?! Anxiety, is something someone has. It IS NOT who they are. It will not define them. It doesn’t define YOU.

People like this contribute to the ongoing silence, instead of an ongoing solution.

And it’s statements like those that keep me going because I refuse to be another person silencing someones thoughts, emotions, fears, etc. I would rather scream from the rooftops and be wrong, than say nothing and another person decides the world is better six feet under than six feet above.

We HAVE to do better as a society and the stigma we place not just on mental health but on the man card.

We HAVE to do better at the standards we hold and the gender stereotypes we perpetuate.

We HAVE to stop allowing those like Mel Robbins to have a platform to spread their righteousness messaging.

We HAVE to STAND UP, check-in, and SPEAK OUT.

We have to make mental health as normal as taking a vitamin in the morning.

Because if we don’t, the crisis is only going to explode further.

June is Men’s Mental Health Awareness month, maybe let the man in your life know you will like/love them regardless of the emotions they show. Reassure them showing emotion is a sign of strength, not weakness. And crying is a release of everything they’ve been holding it. Stop perpetuating toxic masculinity.